Saturday, February 28, 2009

another saturday morning

K and I slept in and for the first time in a week, we made love. It was very nice, I made sure she came first, then I had her get on top (in a more dominant position) while I came. Afterwords we laid in bed for a while, then got dressed and worked on the house. She went out to go shopping, I went for a haircut and now am home alone. I put on the red ball stretcher as soon as I got back, it is becoming easier to wear.

in other news: I won a stainless steel chastity belt off of ebay (pictured). I am waiting for the seller to contact me for my measurements, he said that it would be 4-6 weeks for delivery. Hopefully it is of good quality and fits well.

To my readers: please leave your comments and ask me questions!!! I want to know what you think.

Friday, February 27, 2009

doing it yourself

I really wanted to start on the ball stretching, so I took a metal ball stretcher that I had (was too big, kept slipping off) and plastic coated it with dip from Home Depot. It came out great and holds really well. you can see in the pictures the red and the bolts. These pics were taken a few minutes ago with my phone, so they are not the greatest quality, but they are of me. I am not wearing any underwear today, so my balls can hang as I walk and hopefully stretch. Am remaining chaste (voluntarily), mostly because I know K and I will fuck tomorrow morning. My balls burn slightly from the device, but it is not bad at all, kind of a reminder of what I am doing.

Thursday, February 26, 2009

head strong

K and I are both head strong and we tend to fight on and off. Nothing serious, but I always wonder what the outcome would be if she had me in chastity. I am becoming increasingly of the opinion that what we need is for a dominant man or woman to seduce K and enslave or control us both. I think she would fall for the right woman and I certainly would be willing. Imagine the scene, K and her lover enjoying sex while I was chastised, unable to get hard or participate. What if a man seduced her, demanding she lock me up and that he hold the key? What would he make me do to be allowed to cum? K would never cheat on her own but who knows what she would do if she knew I was ok with it. I have read (and jerked off to) a number of stories where an Alpha male enslaves the husband and seduces the wife. With K being bi, a woman would work well. What if the woman was an lesbian? Would she ever let me out of my chastity device? Hot ideas!!!

Now dear reader I have 2 challenges for you, first: How do I find someone to seduce my wife?

Second, if someone send me 10 questions to answer I will publish the questions and answers in my blog.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

fell off the wagon

Had to stay home this morning from work (to let a repairman in), had the house to myself, you can guess the rest. Had a good cum after rubbing myself almost raw. I really need to be locked up and under control. Waiting for my ball stetchers which should arrive March 2, 2009.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

another day of edging

I really wanted to cum today. Stroked myself right to the edge multiple times but held back. I would love to be locked in my new birdlock, but still can't get it to fit correctly. I searched the internet, the best solution is to stretch my balls until they hang lower. I ordered some neoprene ball stretchers (pictured), will let everyone know how it works out. Found another chastity blog, youngsubhub, he is having the same problems with the birdlock. Finished work late, now off to a meeting.

Monday, February 23, 2009


The universe if conspiring to prevent me from cumming. Yesterday, K got her period. I had a lazy afternoon, and as usual, was looking at porn. I started to jerk off and every time I was ready to cum, something interrupted me. Once it was the kids, once it was K. No one caught me, but I had to stop and start over. Finally I gave up. This morning, before work, I was playing with myself, but could not finish before I had to leave. Just to really get the point across, my birdlock chastity device arrived today! I put it on immediately (pics to follow). so much for cumming.

As for the birdlock, it was difficult to put on because my balls ride very close to my body. like most non belt devices, a certain amount of hang is assumed, which I do not have. I probably should work on that, putting a ball stretcher on before work. Once I wrangled it on, it was comfortable. Will let everyone know how it goes.

Saturday, February 21, 2009

first attempt at captioning

let me know what you think!

Saturday morning

woke up this morning and K and I had sex. she had some difficulty cuming so she used her rabbit vibrator while I watched. when she was done I fucked her until I came. This made me think that if she was my Mistress, she would have made me watch her cum then not allowed me to do anything. I am trying to get her to be more assertive in her everyday life, she tends towards the passive aggressive method of getting her way (which she almost always does). Why can't she just tell me what to do or what she wants? Not sure if it is in her nature but will keep trying. I have listed a number of chastity blogs that I have found, let me know if you anyone knows of any others. pictured is a neosteel chastity belt that I would love to find myself in. later today I am going to try my hand at captioning some pics.

on a different note: what is the relationship between male chastity and sissification? it seems that a lot of men who are chastized are further pushed into wearing panties and other sissy type activities. I would have no problem if K ordered me to do this, I just am curious what everyone feels about the common threads.

Friday, February 20, 2009

my thanks to Aarkeybabble

I emailed aarkeybabble yesterday and he promptly replied with the answer to my quesiton: what chastity blogs and websites are you aware of?. He posted his response to me on his blog:

I think you will enjoy it.

Does anyone else know any sites? I am trying to follow a few. If any readers send me a link to a chastity blog I will try to keep an up to date list. Will write more later.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

a proper post

now that I am done with work for the day I have time for a proper post. I am struggling with conflicting feelings. I really would like to be locked up with my wife, K, holding the key. I would lover for her to tease me and prevent me from cuming. I am not sure how she will react to my request. I am trying to plant the seeds, calling her my Queen and my Goddess. pictured is a chastity belt I am enamored with. the only thing stopping me is the cost. I have posed the question on Fetlife ( on how to go about asking her and got a number of useful suggestions. She is very bi, but a bit submissive to men (more aggressive with women). Maybe I could find a Mistress for both of us? any thoughts from the general audience would be appreciated. Now off to dinner.

couldn't help myself

During my lunch break today I couldn't stop myself from jacking off. I did it partly to see if things were working well (since I had a little trouble last night during sex with K). Mostly, I did it to feel good. I have all the usual post orgasm guilt. I have a business dinner tonight so I won't see K until late this evening. Will try to behave myself better.

quick post

thought everyone might find this story I wrote a few years ago interesting, it is about a woman put into a chastity belt.

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

just got laid

just got laid today, got me a pocket full of change (my apologies to ZZ Top). K and I made love this evening, I had some difficulty getting hard (from my blood pressure meds), I offered K to be in charge of my penis. she really did not bite at the chance (no pun intended). need to monitor the situation (and get some Cialis).

Tuesday, February 17, 2009


I actually behaved myself today. I had the opportunity to jerk off but I stayed my hand (literally). Am I getting more mature? I doubt it, I think I was just staying in a submissive mode, as if I was chastised. I have not received my birdlock device yet, hopefully next week. Tomorrow K and I should be having sex! Will keep track of my days of abstinence.

Monday, February 16, 2009


like most working people, I hate Monday's. getting back to the office after a nice weekend off is no fun. K and I had a great Valentine's day. Yesterday I was tempted to jerk off but decided not to (although I read a lot of porn). Today, during my lunch break, I played with myself but did not cum. For me that is an achievement. I have been looking at chastity belts on line, but the steel ones are very expensive. pictured is one from My-steele that I would love to buy. still very tempted to jack off before I go home tonight but I am not going to. I really wish I was locked up.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Just got laid

Sitting in my den, working (responding to telephone messages). K is resting upstairs. This morning, we spooned, then I made sweet love to her. lots of pillow talk, I asked her if she was in charge, she said no, the boys (our sons) are, so I asked her if she was in charge of me, she said YES!!!. I made sure she came first, then I asked her permission to allow me to cum. I figure this is a good start for preparing her to some day be my keyholder/Domme. Today is all about romance. Tonight we will have champagne in front of the fireplace, lobster, shrimp, etc... Right now I am off to make some chocolate covered strawberries.

Friday, February 13, 2009


went the whole day yesterday without jerking off! this is an accomplishment for me as there is nothing except my own will power stopping me. After work and dinner, my wife (K) and I fought a little (over some BS about new kitchen cabinets) and I wondered to myself how this would have played out if I was locked in chastity. I don't want chastity play to interfere with that part of my life (at least not in the beginning). Tomorrow is Valentine's day, a big deal for K. We promised not to exchange gifts, which means I bought her stuff and all I am getting is a card. That is as it should be. I ordered a large flower arrangement that was supposed to be delivered to her office today, then I found out (last night) that she took the day off!. Last minute phone calls to have the delivery rerouted to my home for Saturday. They were very nice about helping me and I would recommend to anyone. (what I ordered is pictured above). Looking forward to tomorrow night, dinner in front of the fireplace, champagne, flowers, etc...

Thursday, February 12, 2009


last night, while having sex, I asked my wife if she wanted to be my Queen or my princess. (I was trying to find a more Domme side of her). She said "My Queen" which I took as a good sign. Further she said "I am in charge of everything anyway." Now if I can just have her bridge the gap to taking charge of my penis. I have ordered the Birdlock chastity device (pictured) and will wait for it to arrive before asking. It should be more comfortable than the CB2000 (which I put on before work). I was going to wear that too work but chickened out.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

First post

I am sitting in my den, waiting while my wife (a personal trainer) works with her client. Tonight is the night we regularly have sex. Although I am excited, I can't help but to wonder what it would be like if she said I could not cum. We toyed with a chastity belt (from Access Denied) years ago but I was mean and she did not stand up to me. So we dropped the subject and I sold the belt. Now I want her to be my queen. She has told me she is more submissive (sexually) with men, more Dominant with women (yes she is bi). I am looking for ideas on how to broach the subject with her again.

pictured is the curve chastity device (with me in it)